MY BODY MY PLEASURE!
Two Announcements!
1. Female Pleasure Meetup: Join us next Wednesday for our Female Pleasure Meetup! In collaboration with Polyrama - Museum für Lebensgeschichten, we've rescheduled our upcoming event to the 24th of April, 6 pm. Let’s celebrate the pagan springtime goddess Eostre and share our stories about the pathways to joy, focusing on reclaiming our pleasure! After the introduction in February, we have entered spring and are beginning with individual stories.
Our goal is to create a cohesive group of women from diverse backgrounds. We plan to meet monthly (except for twice in May '24), with each woman sharing how she finds pleasure in life. We strive for age and cultural diversity, so topics may vary and not solely focus on body relationships, yet there's no censorship. Each member will contribute a one-time manual to their joy-seeking methods. Based on these testimonies, I'll create a photographic “Playgirl” calendar to celebrate our collective experiences.
2. Newsletter Update: I write articles irregularly, each a result of deep research. From personal and feminism to culture and science, my topics vary, but each piece demands thorough study. My emotions give me a drive to write, so I acknowledge my subjective viewpoint. This is my fuel, and I am not an objective reporter. As I consider this an essential part of my activist motivation, before seeking financial support, I'm reaching out to you for help in spreading the word. My goal is to expand my audience. Please consider sharing my content with friends who may resonate with it. Your support in this endeavor means a lot to me.
This is my space - in my house, judgment is absent. If my content doesn't resonate, feel free to leave. Let's foster a supportive community and learn together. While my articles may be lengthy, I don't expect you to read them all. Sometimes I ruminate, but it's unintentional. This is an experiment in raw and honest documentation of my healing journey. While I aim for authenticity, I strive not to overshare. I yearn for simplicity, yet I'm learning to accept myself and illustrate how trauma and neurodivergence can manifest.
As you can see, my topics mostly revolve around feminism, culture, and science. I refrain from writing about subjects where I lack expertise. Although wars and climate change are significant concerns, I withhold my opinion on them due to my limited geo-political expertise. However, I believe both issues stem from the same root: an obsession with power. Moreover, I prefer not to assign gender to these issues. It's possible that if any other gender were dominant, they might act similarly. It's a human vice that must be universally condemned. What we truly need is sustainable growth and greater equality, along with an awareness that murder is murder, regardless of identity or ethnicity—these are mere constructs of the human mind that divide us. I still hold the belief that we exist within a biological reality; we are all one species, one human race, and we should strive for unity. Unity not only among ourselves but also with our mother Earth, fostering a synergistic interconnectedness.
Religion is regarded by the common people as true, by the wise as false, and by rulers as useful.
-The Stoic filosofer Seneca
Though I'm not an atheist, I'm agnostic about this cosmic life-creating energy. It's not a man with a beard to me; rather, I perceive it as a life force beyond our comprehension. It transcends our senses; yet, our bodies can tune into its frequencies. Our Western civilization, obsessed with the mind, seems to have led us to disconnect from feeling it. Perhaps we can only connect with it on a soul/heart level, where it might be pure love. Pleasure, too, maybe a gift - a sensual essence of life itself. It's a drive of life, and I fail to see why, in our guilt-trip culture, we try to diminish its essential meaning.
I am not talking about euphoria and novelty-seeking, never-fulfilled desires. I am thinking of that goosebumps feeling that your body is communicating to you—this is what I am learning to tune into on my healing journey. Honestly, I can tell you, a swim in the ocean, a hike with my daughter, or moving my body in dance (without any superficially enhancing substances, I'm learning to dance shamelessly, as it is one of the most beautiful body expressions of harmony with a cosmic frequency) or a nicely prepared meal can give it to me too. What is the theory of pleasure? Nobody has ever dived into the subject thoroughly, except perhaps the expert Dionysus cult…
It's fascinating. We have these taste buds, these intricate biological marvels, dedicated to pleasure. It makes you wonder, what's the real story here? Is pleasure just some frivolous add-on, or is there something deeper, something we've been overlooking for centuries?
We chase material things, this constant consumption, but it leaves us feeling hollow, doesn't it? Like there's fundamental happiness missing. It feels like pleasure, like beauty (harmony not perfection), play, and joy, are these forgotten ingredients that could add real vitality to our lives.
And look at women. In a world dominated by men, they've been conditioned to prioritize everyone else's pleasure over their own. Treated like property, relegated to baby-making machines, they haven't been allowed to fully experience what it means to be human. Despite the backlash, there's a growing awareness. Pleasure isn't just a silly indulgence, it's fundamental! It's a force that can empower us to reclaim harmony and rewrite our own stories.
Consider the clitoris, for example. It's simply... unthinkable, isn't it? This remarkable organ, crafted solely for pleasure? There must be more to it than that. After all, evolution doesn't squander resources! Yet, despite its significance, there remains a conspicuous silence within the realms of science. Astonishingly, even in medicine, it's still a taboo subject. Can you fathom that medicine is essentially engaging in anatomy slut-shaming?
And whatever it is, that penis-aiming character, ego-driven conquest under the religious supposedly humbleness and high values, destroys the planet, life, and living beings. It's all, I believe, somehow womb envy. Instead of creating life, conquering, possessing, and exploiting, it's all about power and control, so all life-worshiping matriarchal cults were destroyed by this power-obsessed male dominance (I'm aware that by attributing certain traits to specific sexes, it may sound essentialist, but I don't have a definitive answer and I'm merely speculating here).
Maybe not everything in evolution has a clear-cut explanation. Perhaps there are random twists and turns, and the same applies to our cultural narratives and thought patterns. Why not prioritize pleasure first, then work hard? It's like charging our batteries before tackling tough tasks. These concepts may only apply to default gender roles, right? When women focus on pursuing pleasure, they are instantly manipulated into feeling guilty.
They are expected to be selfless as if our purpose is pure sacrifice, akin to Jesus - although I don’t know why Jesus is depicted as a man. I think Jesus should be portrayed as a woman, as this aligns more with what their main role entails - sacrificing for humanity (I'm at a point where I no longer feel the need to spend my labor explaining to red pillers why they're wrong). We hold onto these assumptions dearly, but what if they're just beliefs?
And don't even get me started on religion! Especially Abrahamic ones, with Calvinism – pleasure seems like a dirty little secret, a distraction from the divine. Even in secular societies, that past lingers, a hidden algorithm shaping our thoughts. It's interesting, too, how the cross cult converted iconography by robbing it from pagan cults that celebrated life, female sexuality, fertility, and the earth itself!
Maybe we need a revolutionary female pleasure preacher to break free from these ingrained dogmas. Why is there so little philosophical exploration of pleasure? Not just sexual pleasure, but the entire experience of joy. Why do we feel like we have to earn it, or even believe we deserve punishment for indulging in it? Maybe it's supposed to be our baseline, a kind of emotional homeostasis to balance out the pain. Why do we glorify pain, anyway? Sure, it's a warning system, but to handle it, don't we need resilience? And doesn't that come from those moments of pleasure? Pain tells us to avoid danger, but surely suffering shouldn't be praised!
I'm convinced the whole mystery surrounding female pleasure is just a product of the male perspective (entitlement). Evolution doesn't just create something this amazing as a mere "byproduct." It has to mean something more, something significant. And the fact that for so long, with all the male bias in science, nobody even bothered to uncover its true purpose? It's almost like someone was trying to hide something. And you know, when someone's trying that hard to hide something, it usually means there's something important there. They erase it from textbooks, and pretend it doesn't exist, while practices like female genital mutilation are all about controlling female sexuality, ensuring they never experience pleasure, turning them into mere objects of male gratification. It's all about male possessiveness, a twisted sense of ownership, "my property," "my sex toy."
