I'd rather do Kamasutra
and let's teach about it in the school ☯️
Dear Reader,
this is a rather lengthy text into which I've poured a lot of heart and reflection—some thoughts are fresh, while others have lingered in my soul for a while. Reading will take you about half an hour. I suspect that it might be too long to tackle at once, so I encourage you to take it in stages. I've spent many, many hours on it, and I intended to share observations regarding the current situation, which is a result of recent years' techno-sociological changes. I've added a few nice illustrations to spice things up a bit, and I hope I'm not overwhelming you too much—please share your feedback!
I wish you a Happy 2024!
How have you been during these last Holy Days? I hope you chose to spend them aligned with your genuine needs, and that it was possible.
I, for the first time, spent them in my solitude retreat, healing from multigenerational trauma, and indulging myself in asking questions. Is it only me, or do you also feel that something is deeply NOT OK in recent times, like some big systemic ERROR that needs a good healer to repair? Maybe we need to talk to our mother GAYA? Seems like we have forgotten her. Perhaps we all need collective healing.
As a little girl, I was convinced that the Messiah was born in Poland. Poles, in case you didn't know, were forcibly and violently converted to the Christian religion. Sometimes, I feel we are facing another global conversion, but it feels more like a sneaky hybrid tactic that is harder to detect because our senses get desensitized. We are all groomed and hypnotized by corporate limbic capitalism.
Limbic capitalism refers to a technologically advanced but socially regressive business system in which global industries often with the help of complicit governments and criminal organizations, encourage excessive consumption and addiction. It exploits emotional and instinctual responses, often bypassing ethical considerations for the sake of profit and market control.
I just happened to be born in Poland and have a love-and-hate relationship with the country of my origin and its paradoxical culture. Although today's Poland is very homogeneous, we used to be one of Europe's more ethnically and culturally diverse regions. We tend to be messianic, and we are good at self-victimization and justifying suffering. But for that, we might have a serious reason too. Poles have the highest rate of PTSD throughout the measured different countries’ populations. The researchers assume it is because of the latest IIWW and communism, but I would guess, it goes many more generations before.
By the way, no one knows exactly what blood flows in my veins. I am getting myself a present for Christmas - my heritage test. My curiosity is too big; my family legends even say that I also have a drop of Japanese and maybe Tatar blood. I have an intuition; my female ancestors were good witches because I have some irrational mental properties. I seriously have experienced some hard-to-explain stuff.
However, Poles embrace our romanticism and fantasize that our Western, pragmatic neighbors might envy us, I prefer to acknowledge that we could learn from our differences rather than trying to prove superiority. To truly appreciate my Polish roots, I needed some distance, and that led me to Germany – once a land of order, now, in the case of Berlin, rather untidy but honest and freer than any other big metropolis.
Every belief system, be it a religion or political ideology meant to benefit us, carries the potential to undermine its creators. Concepts like nationality, religion, and gender, though seemingly distinct, share similarities in their impact on individuals. While attempting to compute and categorize (left hemisphere - animus) our complex reality through constructs, their inherent constraints prevent us from reaching its essence. Hence, we rely on the right hemisphere (anima) for a more metaphorical reality grasping.
I distinguish religion, perceived as a source of collective cult and constructed moral superstitions, from spirituality - an internal sense of belonging to a life-creating consciousness rooted in pure love. As a spiritual agnostic, I acknowledge unanswered questions, yet as I heal in embodiment, I find increasing comfort without the need for mechanical comprehension.
Constructed norms, like moral standards, are tools we create to navigate ambiguity and maintain control. Unfortunately, they often work in reverse, with individuals protecting their dogmas at the expense of each other, leading to conflict and harm. We inadvertently become slaves to the tools we initially crafted to serve us.
Interesting tidbit: I recently stumbled upon a historical anecdote that brought to mind the novel ideas that often alienate us, much like the fate of pioneering thinkers such as Galileo. It involves a man who faced public scorn for introducing the now-common invention of the umbrella. His peculiar choice was met with disapproval, revealing our shared tendency toward xenophobia.
It got me thinking... Nature, in itself, is neither inherently good nor evil—these are human mind constructs. Yet, we create systems where we impose these definitions, which continually evolve, being renegotiated and reassessed as our collective progress mirrors the broader evolution of our species and society. Our reality adapts in a constant feedback loop. Instead of adhering to rigid dogmas, why not collaborate to enhance our collective well-being, ensuring the thriving of an individual as a coherent outcome? To achieve this, we must begin with ourselves—addressing the wounds inflicted by harsh and inflexible belief systems. To heal, we first need to identify the source of the ailment. So, let's take a closer look at what's going on here…
As a form of self-advice to myself, I remind myself, the key lies in maintaining a healthy balance. If I eat too much, my stomach suffers; if I eat too little, I feel hungry. It's essential to discern the moment when I'm no longer hungry and when that additional bite might lead to discomfort. To achieve this, I must listen to my body, pay attention to its signals, and reconnect with my basic instincts.
In the current world of the attention economy, it's easy to forget about fundamental needs, like moving to prevent back pain. So, I need to reestablish a connection with my body, feel it, and recognize that pain is a signal that something is amiss. This awareness applies not only to physical sensations but also to emotional well-being.
While anxiety and depression may share common ground in feeling down, they are distinct. I need to develop the ability to differentiate between these symptoms. Instead of solely relying on medication, which I'll consider if my trusted doctor recommends it, I'll explore the root causes of sadness, seeking solutions to minimize its impact.
If grief arises, I acknowledge that pain and loss are inherent in life's game. Rather than pathologizing everything, I'll focus on building resilience and embracing the full spectrum of feelings. It's a reminder to approach challenges with a balanced perspective, appreciating both the highs and lows of the human experience.
In the era of the global village and virtual technology development, our interactions often shrink to a two-dimensional screen experience. The desire to be seen, heard, and acknowledged is widespread, fueled by a quest for fame (fame is also misunderstood as a form of validation, yet I deeply believe it is a form of entrapment). However, achieving individual visibility seems for most rather impossible. Our evolutionary roots lie in smaller communities, making the concept of a global village disorienting and leaving us susceptible to various manipulations. Living in a culture of narcissism prompts reflection: are we to blame?
Narcissism, by definition, arises from neglecting our authentic selves and favoring only the good parts. We're conditioned to believe we can gain acceptance by pretending to be flawless, stemming from a deep wound of not being allowed to be imperfect—something we all are. Now, there's this rise in identitarianism—a complex subject driven by a need for recognition and representation.
Naturally, every human being has personhood and agency.
I advocate for diversity and the significance of representation, recognizing its importance in fostering connection and meaning within our collective context. However, representation alone does not equate to liberation. True liberation lies in agency and personal responsibility. On the other hand, "meaning" pertains to the personal (spiritual) or intrinsic significance of an activity, encompassing subjective and transcendent elements such as personal fulfillment, purpose, and deeper significance. Value, in this context, is not synonymous with meaning; it is dictated by the market's external expectations. Higher market value translates to increased social status and economic independence. While meaningful activities may not always align with market value, it's crucial to understand that, here, "value" primarily pertains to transactional worth.
In the realm of our sexual double standard reality, some women turn to sex work as it offers better income compared to their undervalued labor in other domains. This stems from a history of exploitation, where women's unpaid labor, creates a fundamental question of sexual ethics. In patriarchy, women were treated as baby factories by default, coerced to reproduce and engage in sex without having a voice. There is a fundamental problem to be solved: why do women have to trade sex for commitment, for anything? Why do women are supposed to refrain from having sex to be treated respectfully and gain commitment? Why sex shouldn’t be just voluntary, equally transparent, and consensual for both parties? I don’t buy the evo psych essentialist explanation of alpha men, etc. I'd rather do Kamasutra. And why are these things not symmetrical for both sexes? Paying for sex, irrespective of gender, perpetuates a form of economic domination—the client’s demand in the most personal and intimate human sphere.
I believe that gender disparities stem from how society, influenced by a patriarchal mindset, treats women as conquests of men. It's crucial to recognize that there's no superior gender; we are all equally important and share the same basic needs as individuals. To overcome oppressive dynamics, we need to collaborate as equals, respecting each other and working together consensually. This applies to all types of relationships—whether heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, monogamous, or polyamorous. Relationships are conditional, not transactional, based on mutual respect's personhood. If one partner doesn't respect the other's agency as much as their own, it's not a true relationship; it becomes ownership, whether in a casual encounter or a long-term commitment.
I am for the right of personal choice, and I also don’t believe prohibition could be a solution. We need to eradicate sexual double standards and dismantle patriarchal norms that have historically coerced women, limiting them to only the biological roles of providing offspring and sex. The question arises: Is being a sex worker genuinely liberating in a world defined by sexual dichotomy? The sexual revolution has not factually eradicated double standards, where attractiveness remains a prime women’s currency, overshadowing intellect and skills and perpetuating the notion that women are not visual and are only turned on by the Alfa status. (OMG, we already know that this is not true!)
While the current market rewards attractiveness over intelligence, the dynamics reveal a sad reality. I challenge the social de-taboo-isation of sex, advocating for the normalization of the transactionality of sex in voluntary and consensual contexts equally for both sexes. In the pursuit of freedom of choice, I oppose the prohibition of sex work, endorsing the acceptance of male sex work and women as clients. The scarcity of female clients results in them paying more for services than male clients, reflecting the lingering inequality in our sex roles.
Let's place greater importance on portraying female desire and understanding its sources of attraction. With the evolving economic independence of women, outdated biases lose their validity in arguments. True attraction lies in treating women as individuals, not mere providers of sexual needs. Mutual fulfillment and nurturing of both emotional and sexual needs are crucial. Objectifying any gender to meet outdated market demands dehumanizes individuals. It is essential to highlight the public representation of wise female role models to challenge these norms.
Another question that arises is whether the market is a natural outcome of our innate needs, or if women were socialized to perceive it as socially acceptable to equally pay for sex services as men, would they have done it more likely? we don’t know… However, fostering good relational sex can diminish the need for transactional sex encounters on the market. In conclusion, let's strive to abolish exploitative dynamics in the realm of sex, recognizing its sacred relational nature.
Representation does neither equal nor guarantee liberty or justice. It may lead to emancipation by empowering. It deepens comprehension of other perspectives and fosters more empathy towards them. So, I believe we should promote good role models from a variety of perspectives and give them an opportunity for a plural dialog. We still need to be very careful of the system using those woke justice codes to convince us that now the system is fair and provides a factual change. Sadly, I am suspicious, I have a feeling we are all being tricked again by the “washing” mechanism. Additionally, the way this is all about identities is like putting us into boxes and reinforces only more prejudices and division.
In the realm of justice, rather than resorting to punishment and revenge, why can't we foster restoration? The act of canceling and erasing history appears to be deceitful and violent in my view. Can't we strive for reconciliation or, perhaps, simply conciliation? This approach opens up various paths—some individuals labeled as "oppressed" prefer not to be cast as victims. Meanwhile, some who are deemed "oppressed" and perhaps not putting in the effort choose to blame others. Why not, as stoics suggest, instead leverage what is in our hands, and whyn’t our actions not identities tell more about us? I believe having privilege itself doesn’t make anyone evil, unfair, or instantly accomplished. However, checking one’s privilege should be also an ethical norm.
And what is the result of all of that? We are so divided and fragmented. Do we feel the improvement in our lives? At the moment, we all regress. Maybe what we need is some reality check—hello—look, we are run by power-driven narcissists and psychopaths who seduce us with promises of growth, justice, and equal opportunities. What happens is actually that they are the only ones who profit thanks to our division.
To be honest, on the political map nowadays, I find it difficult to locate myself. I am a progressive-spiritual-libero-marxist-anarcho-feminist—isn’t it contradictory? Life is complicated shit—I don't know, seriously. I am for progress, technology, and transhumanism, but I am also for getting to our embodied visceral wisdom that will help us prevent from sacrificing ourselves and being overtaken by evil parasitic forces.
What strikes me the most is the impression that we've reached an emergency state, we are in urgent need for our species to correct this ERROR.
We must begin by preventing further mind harvesting by a system fueled by our increasing division, contempt, and anger. Our reality has become overly two-dimensional and polarized due to an overdose of super-visual stimuli. We are being manipulated into addiction to these stimuli, and binge screen consumption disrupts our dopamine management. This addiction, in turn, leads to dysregulation of emotional responses and immature reactions resulting in abusive behavior.
To be transparent - I engage in social media, yet, if it comes to binging gaming, dating apps, Netflix, and porn – I am not a user of my deliberate choice. I am still investigating my stand about porn. I dislike male-gaze porn because of how females are portrayed. It reinforces reward-programming behavior, contributing to a lack of empathy towards women and escalating violence. However, I am not a prude, and I support Make Love Not Porn and find it super cool to promote real relational sex. I assume watching it rewards our innate bonding instincts and fosters authentic intimacy.
In this context, we attempt to interpret our entire multidimensional (space + time) reality without having a holistic, five-sense-based input. We tend to ignore the smell, touch, voice color, and all the other receptors our bodies are equipped with, including motion, space, and time (body movement, rhythm, and dance). It's essential for a complete cognitive process that our evolution has provided us. The consequence of this flattened reality is a form of perceptual and cognitive deviation – we tend to adjust everything only to what we see.
We form judgments based on superficial impressions, focusing on surface-level aspects such as identities and labels while lacking curiosity.
This lack of curiosity leads to regression, hindering the exchange of perspectives on a deeper level. Despite the abundance of visual input, we struggle to process it in terms of space, motion, and time. Our perception of reality flattens, and rather than embracing our authentic selves, we judge ourselves based on our avatars – mere two-dimensional virtual representations. The desire to conform to societal beauty standards influences our perception, which is inherently malleable. This malleability contributes to the development of various visual-based dysphorias.
Simultaneously, our capacity for empathy diminishes as we reduce individuals to mere snapshots of their real selves.
In an attempt to navigate this complex landscape, we create identities to label our avatars. These labels then give rise to prejudices, perpetuating a cycle that includes racism, homophobia, and other forms of discrimination. It is within this cycle that the roots of xenophobia take hold.
Judgment is the end of everything, curiosity is the endless possibility.
Yes, the internet is a vast repository of knowledge, offering access to a wealth of information. However, it is also a space where diverse content, both valuable and harmful, coexists. The lack of regulation and the potential for misinformation make it crucial for individuals to approach online content with a critical mindset to navigate it responsibly and discerningly to separate reliable information from falsehoods.
I'm against violence but we need a slap in our face – to wake the fuck up, Earth is calling!!!
On one hand, the internet provides the possibility of mental contagion with all sorts of biases, the cancerous cult of Andrew Tate, or hate-spreading feminists with their various divisions, TERFs, SWERFs, inclusive, it’s all so fragmenting, and we started with egalitarianism, do you remember? I prefer to delve into something that gives me more than wasting energy on deciding who is right in these discussions.
I’d rather do Kamasutra… sadly I am single at the moment and it is not that easy to match with a grown-up man who is good at making love.
It's our responsibility not to delve deeper into that rabbit hole. We need to unite!
The interplay of historical developments, such as the widespread use of contraceptive pills, the advent of the internet, and the emergence of dating apps, has indeed shaped various aspects of contemporary society. These changes have influenced trends in sexual habits, forming families, communication, and relationships. Over the past 60 years, the availability and use of contraceptive pills have provided individuals with greater control over family planning. Simultaneously, the internet, with its exponential growth over the last 30 years, has revolutionized communication and access to information, connecting people across the globe. In the last decade, the rise of dating apps has transformed the landscape of relationships, altering how individuals meet and connect. Even with all the progress we've made, there's a strange trend going on – more and more people are feeling isolated and lonely, and there's a drop in birth rates worldwide.
This isn't just about personal relationships; it's messing with our society and the environment. The rise in depression might just be a sign that something's not right. It's like our planet, Mother Earth, is taking a hit that might be irreversible. We might have pushed things too far, and now we're all in serious trouble.
WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON HERE????
Well sure, it’s all just selfish bitch, Eve’s fault. Sure… that’s why we didn’t invite her to a table and we need to decide for her. Oh, come on! Blaming it all on Eve? That's so old-school. Sure, we've been handed down some questionable ideas over the last few thousand years, but painting Eve as some kind of temptress who duped poor Adam? That's a bit much. Women get this unfair rap as irrational, hysterical, selfish feminists who supposedly just hate men. Seriously? Maybe it's time to ditch these outdated stereotypes.
Internalized misogyny subtly coerces half the population, reducing women to a mere baby-making supply, stripping us of agency and conscience rights. Patriarchal dynamics oppress everyone, pushing women to over-function. Despite legal equality, women still bear societal scapegoating, a symptom of an unchanged paradigm.
The pill didn't truly liberate women, and a paradigm shift requires dismantling sexual double standards.
Our genes aren't to blame; it's a patriarchal scheme favoring penis owners. Yet, they, too, fall victim to this harmful deviation. We need a balanced system where both sexes contribute equally to collective well-being, aligning with our internal wisdom and conscience.
Because of the market catering to lonely men, platforms like "liberating" OnlyFans emerge, where women sell their sexual avatars in the name of liberation (was the sexual revolution a mistake?). This current scenario directly leads to increased alienation and contempt between "us vs. them." So, is it genuinely liberating when our fundamental need is to connect? It takes two to tango. And let's be real about sex— it's not just for reproduction; to conceive most animals don't climax so our pleasure must be for something more than just conception. Dolphins and bonobos (lots of lesbians) engage in sex for fun and bonding, not just for spreading genes.
Masturbation isn't the same as sex. To me, "tangoing" makes sense only with more than one person because its essence is relational. Sex is about bonding and communication—it's what makes us feel connected, capisce? It's an activity that fosters bonding, regardless of sexual orientation. Should we liberate ourselves from our connection, turn our sacred expression of connectedness into a commodity, and let profit-makers enslave us by keeping us hooked on endless screen-based stimuli?
Let’s come back, and start learning to communicate our most filthy fantasies and desires, let’s bring the memory of mystical seduction, flirting and unfolding, listening and whispering, biting and screaming, yaaaahhhh (I am very visual btw, I am a visual artist ;) and come back to our bodies and share them in reciprocity and consent, to conceive or not. Let's change the path of our disastrous selfishness and start tuning to our visceral drive that brings well-being not misery, giving and receiving pleasure, consciously, kink or vanilla, with consent and protection, Let’s find out together whether we are a good fit to commit, if we both need and want it equally!!!!!
But we somehow get so apart, maybe we can’t connect with our feelings anymore, we are so dysregulated, we are lost… and that’s the reason - that we avoid real intimacy and vulnerability and we are unable to communicate anymore!
Isn't it ironic that the internet, meant to foster democratic and pluralistic views, often deepens our polarization and alienation? In my field of interest, it feels like we've hit a wall—no more room for new ideas, creations, or inventions. It's like the end of history, science, and art. Bureaucratic regulations and productivity-focused innovations seem to suck the life out of us, turning us into zombies. Speaking broadly, when I reflect on my passion for cinema, the experience of watching a movie a day in my early twenties, I miss that cathartic feeling. I barely watch movies lately and most of them are sequels or feel like AI-generated moral constructs. Music, where are the unique hits? Can you name a recent one that doesn't sound like a copy of a copy? Even fashion, despite a competitive industry, results in people looking similar. Where is the diversity we claim to cherish? Sadly even academia is corrupted by its corporate drive.
In Berlin, whether in the mainstream or niche, I often feel it's a treasure trove for independent art and entertainment. However, the absence of intense competition, unlike in New York or London, can make talented individuals too comfortable. Striking a balance between challenge and positive input seems like a good recipe. What's particularly beneficial is the existence of artist unions in Berlin due to its long leftist tradition. Preserving this is crucial. Unfortunately, the current political situation raises concerns about the freedom of speech and expression in our artistic community. This raises another question about technocratic regulations.
We're drowning in tools but lacking fresh ideas. Mimicry and acceleration dominate our instant culture of quick creation and opinions, leaving little time for thoughtful processing. Despite all the woke narratives like BLM-, women-, and green-washing, genuine change seems lacking.
Instead of focusing on institutional regulations, maybe we should consider a shift in collectors and genuine philanthropy fostering independent thinking. Perhaps apart from the speculative world of art, we could also find some believers of real change where new paradigms like Copernicus's discovery could save us. It may be that reaching the rich on a deeper level (instead of eating them) could make a real difference.
Navigating the art world, I've observed a peculiar shift. Art has become highly political, often competing with journalism and science. In conversations with my artist friends, many in their middle age like me, we agree on this strange dynamic. While I understand the idea that the personal is political, sometimes it feels like political dogma becomes personal compulsory. The internet, meme culture, and wishy-washy trends appear to be mere vents for our real anger.
Where is the sublime? Where is the profound beauty that transcends mere design, carrying a deeper metaphor resonating with our collective archetypal wisdom? Instead of constant division, why can't we find a unifying beauty? Where is the divine, the sacred?
Florentina Holzinger does some really impressive work, and I truly sense the sublime in her creations. Regardless of whether it's her privilege or pure talent, I'm rooting for her. I hope she maintains her independence and stays true to herself, giving us the chance to witness more of her creations. Of course, this is just my viewpoint, and everyone is free to think differently.
On another note, I almost forgot to mention my recent debut as an artist book Alltagsfantasie. It's an attempt to touch the sublime, and I've observed that some people feel uncomfortable with its ambiguous quality. In a world where everything often needs a linear and literal explanation, my book offers a different kind of depth.
Ever feel like life's one big buffet of choices, but when you dig in, it's all just fast-food quality? Like, seriously, where's the good stuff hiding? It's like trying to catch a vibe, but it slips away faster than your Wi-Fi on a bad day. Is it just me, or is reality playing hard to get? Have I officially hit the "back in my day" stage of life? I work with the young folks and trust me, they're not breezing through life either. It's like we're all stuck in this bizarre reality show where the plot twists are just getting out of control.
But hey, amidst the chaos, there's this intangible something that binds us. It's like the secret sauce of life that makes us all part of a cosmic club. Call it unity, call it the force – whatever it is, it's the reason we don't lose our minds completely. And working with the kiddos, plus having a 21-year-old spawn, keeps me plugged into the next-gen struggle.
Alright, let's keep this cosmic exploration rolling:
Now, amid this wild ride called life, where pseudo-justice and the art world are doing the tango with politics and morality, there's this oasis – a secret garden of sanity. Imagine immersing yourself in the wonders of nature, basking in the glow of natural beauty, and high-fiving science on the way. It's like a spa day for your soul, minus the whale music and cucumber slices.
Here, morality takes a vacation, and you get a front-row seat to uncensored, unprejudiced fantasy. No judgment zone, people! Exploring Mother Nature's VIP section becomes your escape pod from the emotional rollercoaster of socio-political debates. It's like stepping into a parallel universe where the drama is low, and the awe is high.
Forget about contempt and violence; this is a love affair with the pure, unfiltered joy of discovery.
NATURE and SCIENCE become my best friends forever, and together, I embark on a journey free from the moral handcuffs that usually come with human interaction. It's like a field trip into the universe's VIP lounge – no VIP pass required. So, as we navigate the messy maze of societal issues, here’s where I find genuine inspiration that boosts my curiosity and fantasy altogether. I think of a diverse system, a human as an organism of subsystems with different organs as subsystems of cells. On each level, they collaborate on its scale. Then in another direction, from one human individual to family systems, different ethnicities, and countries, society is another form of an organism. And it needs a serious treatment. Think of it as a nationwide therapy session for multigenerational trauma based on mindblowing Micheal Levin’s discoveries of different scale systems.
Diagnosis is the first step. Once we've acknowledged the issues, it's action time.
I'm not about the fear-mongering or the finger-wagging; let's just figure out what went wrong and how we can dial up the good vibes in our lives. In the grand scheme of things, it's all connected, like one big cosmic puzzle. Heal together, acknowledge the glitches, and let's make this planet a rad place to be.
No fear, just joy!
I'm just a 44-year-old Polish woman doing the single mom hustle with my 21-year-old daughter. We left our homeland for a change of scenery, and it's been a bit of a journey. Got a decent education, and, well, I try to keep both mentally and physically in check – nothing extraordinary, just doing my best. I dabble in the art world during the day, hoping my creations strike a chord somewhere. Yet my supportive income source comes from teaching, and sharing what I know about creating. I'm not making millions, but it feels meaningful, and my pupils seem to appreciate it too. Used to see myself as a bit of a victim, but I've let go of that mindset. It took some soul-searching to realize I have some say in how things go.
I tend to avoid social media drama; it just feels too orchestrated for my taste. I prefer the real deal – face-to-face conversations, actual parties, and events where people share their challenges, from wars, and politics to personal struggles. The internet, for me, is a space to share observations and curate thoughts worth sharing. I'm not into the whole bimbo scene – never was. I stick to sipping coffee, creating art, and sharing what I know. It might not be groundbreaking, but it's my modest way of navigating this crazy world.
In the face of the chaos and turmoil, contemplating a strike or street protest might cross our minds, especially when considering the situation in the Middle East. However, the practical impact we can have on such complex global issues remains uncertain.
Our sphere of influence might be more tangible in our local environment, though it too has its challenges.
The world seems on the brink of collapse, from human affairs to broader concerns. While I don't claim to have all the answers, I do firmly believe in the power of our agency. It's crucial to unite against manipulative forces in positions of power, rejecting blind adherence to narratives fed to us. A reality check is long overdue. Strengthening our connections and engaging more with each other is essential. Let's prioritize genuine interactions, steering clear of numbing substances and behaviors that merely create the illusion of connection.
As I reflect on this on Christmas day, deliberately alone in retreat, I can't help but question whether this solitude is a form of escaping. Perhaps it is, but I like to think of it as a conscious step towards healing. In the past year, I've been on a journey of being alcohol-free, steering clear of drugs, mostly quitting smoking, and stopping taking lithium. Surprisingly, this process has left me feeling more awake.
Now, I'm not here to dish out advice, but it's worth noting that alcohol, often our go-to numbing agent, is nothing short of poison. Behind it lurks a massive capitalistic cartel. I'll delve into this topic more in the future, not to preach but because my personal experience with abstinence has brought about genuine benefits. It's a path worth considering, and I'm eager to share more about it, not as an imposition but as a source of potential insight.
MEMORY, a bit like chasing fireflies, leaves us wondering about its physical hangout in our bodies. Memories throw a real-life party in our physical selves. A mere sight or a smell can shake up our blood pressure, stirring up a whole bunch of feelings. Forget about genes or flash drives – memories have a sneaky way of hanging out in the world of epigenetics and emergent systems. And get this, they're not just ours to keep; we might pass down the trigger package to the next generation. It's like inheriting a knack for getting teary-eyed at sunsets, even if you've never seen one.
Now, memories are not just a grayscale flipbook. They're a Technicolor ride of joy and sorrow. Nostalgia hits when you realize those golden moments are now in the museum of the past, prompting a bit of grief. Even when something awesome happens, we're sweating bullets about it fading, brewing a fear of losing the good stuff. Turns out, anticipation is the secret sauce. Our dopamine system throws a party when certainty and uncertainty are doing the tango at 50-50. It's like the law of intermittent reinforcement, and you can spot it in those rollercoaster relationships. It's like an addiction, with the thrill of temporary connection overshadowing the neglect and chaos.
Our motivation? It's all about hunting for rewards, sustenance, and survival goodies. Our hormones throw a pre-goal party, reaching borderline excitement. But guess what? Getting what we want doesn't always live up to the hype, leading to some serious FOMO. The fix? Self-regulation. But here's the plot twist – in a society bombarding us with constant stimuli and multigenerational trauma with dysfunctional family systems, many of us are stuck emotionally in toddler mode. We are lacking the emotional maturity needed to keep ourselves in check.
To heal collectively we need a correction to a dysfunctional system that wired us to women’s exploitation that led to mother wounding. The patriarchal system may feel timeless, but it is far from it. Gendered oppression is a relatively recent invention of human societies, and even then, not universal. The oldest human settlement in the world from which we have archaeological data shows that men and women lived pretty much the same lives.
Women in the Neolithic were hunting, the same as men.
The way women are portrayed in post-Abrahamic Western culture is unnatural. They are often depicted as seducers, while men are voyers. This presents a false narrative that sex drive is solely a male feature and need. In the polarizing internet culture, this false programming is perpetuated further. This portrayal has nothing to do with nature because our visual perception is shaped by what see in a feedback loop. Gender itself is a construct that is differently visually represented in different cultures and shapes our stimuli preferences. Additionally, not in every culture and religion female sexuality, was stigmatized and associated with guilt and shame.
Sexual asymmetry perpetuated a distorted perception of women as objects, fostering dysfunction and maintaining a codependency that compelled prioritize their spouses over their own needs. If they didn't comply, they feared infidelity or abandonment which was a threat of social death. Women without husbands were socially scrutinized. This pattern endured for centuries. And now the algorithm and free market augment this asymmetry, resulting in the excessive porn industry and Only Fans (that virtually fulfill the male sexual needs), exacerbating extremely deadly alienation. Meanwhile, men become incels and women become femcels, forsaking genuine connections.
I believe this happens due to the unnatural dynamic and the false belief that a woman is a trophy conquered by a man, finding arousal in being stared at (only if she likes the guy), while he gets aroused by staring. This programming reinforces the idea that a woman needs validation from the outside, contributing to their insecurity and confusion about their desires. The narrative that women are attracted only to status may make sense in the context of seeking a partner for a committed relationship or starting a family. However, women don't always want commitment, and also this is all about the transparency of intentions. This gatekeeping to sex I find a form of unethical manipulation.
Representation of female sexuality (not self-objectification but representation of what gives women sexual arousal) paves the way for emancipation. Its absence in pop culture and art distorts our expectations even more. Internet polarization contributes to the intensification of these power sex dynamics. Men increasingly seek super stimuli content, while women, being financially independent, may not necessarily prioritize men with higher status any longer, yet have their needs and desires different but the same. To heal these toxic dynamics, representation of the female gaze is crucial, sex positive education and school reform will foster more relational activities and communication.
Imagine if sex-positive parents could openly discuss sex with their kids before they learn about it from online porn. The porn industry worsens due to rampant capitalism; they create stronger and more stimulating content, preventing adolescents exposed to it before they become sexually active from having real sexual encounters. The expectations set by porn—what they think sex is—instill fear, widening the gap between boys and girls. Essentially, young people are having less sex than at any recorded point in human history. They also initiate sexual activity much later than before, and before trying it together, their only knowledge comes from the porn-sites.
In the battle against internet allure, schools must revitalize learning, envisioning a curriculum rich in arts, creativity, and vibrant activities. Emphasize practical skills to foster self-sufficiency. Counter instant gratification with curiosity-driven learning, instilling virtues of patience and perseverance. Celebrate achievements, fostering a collaborative vibe. Envision educators as CEOs, empowering individual choices and transforming into mentors.
In the realm of education, critical thinking is paramount. Ground independent thinking in psychology, ethics, and philosophy for navigating complexity. Overhaul the curriculum, integrating biology into sex education, exploring gender, non-violent communication, and ethical psychology. Picture an egalitarian space where empathy and negotiation shine, encouraging students to flourish in a wide variety of skills. The curriculum introduces a touch of divinity through science, art, and embodiment revolutionizing education for an enlightened, empowered generation committed to a holistic journey.
Ever wonder where we can find the lost art of feeling, master the ninja move of self-regulation, and grow resilience like a superhero? It's not a superhero secret – it's a school system makeover waiting to happen. Let's give a shout-out to mentors and teachers – the unsung heroes who can turn our schools into vibrant hubs of wisdom. Forget about just chasing dollars; we're talking about wisdom that goes beyond the mind, body, and spirit. Think philosophy and aesthetics, a holistic blend that’s the real game-changer.
And hey, let's talk about the "S" word. Sexuality – let's make it a bonding adventure, not a solo mission. To make these dreams a reality, we need to free education from its stuffy dogmas. Picture this: sex ed and biology teaming up, while identity exploration gets cozy with philosophy. Secular schools? Imagine a classroom where teachings from every religion are tossed into the mix, creating a buffet of ideas. It's like a food court for the soul, and the star dish is non-violent communication. Welcome to the free markets of ideas, where diversity isn't just celebrated – it's the main event! Sprinkle in a bit of divine magic through art, nature, and some good old-fashioned playtime. Science? It's not a snooze fest; it's a joyous exploration. Forget moralistic preaching; let's make room for feeling and connection to steal the spotlight.
Embarking on this transformative journey, I'm shedding fear and venturing into conversations beyond familiar dogmas. Reconnecting with my roots through play and dance, I approach it with full awareness, steering clear of the deceptive influence of alcohol and other perception-altering substances. Sobriety has become my ticket to genuine connections, unveiling profound self-discoveries along the way. I've come to realize that intuition is a reliable guide in finding meaningful matches. This journey is my suggestion, an invitation to embrace feeling, connection, and self-discovery.
It's time to break the silence about sex with our kids before they encounter explicit content online. Let's encourage them to see sex as a joyful experience together, rather than a screen spectacle. Shockingly, the reality in schools involves kids recording and sharing intimate content without consent. As parents, we struggle to discuss our vulnerabilities and desires due to societal taboos.
This censorship affects our kids, leading to a loss of true intimacy. To counter the damaging influence of non-consensual sharing and foster a healthy understanding of sex, we must be sex-positive ourselves.
Now, let's shift the focus to the crisis of birth rates and ask if this world is the right place for our kids and their future. When I say "our kids," it includes every child in our community. Regardless of biological ties, we share the responsibility for their well-being. It's a community effort to guide, support, and provide the best opportunities for every child.
Changing the world starts in our backyard, and teaching kids the power of wisdom can be a superhero cape for positive change.
Talk to the kids, and invite them to explore and learn together. Show them things they might have missed due to technological changes. Let them teach you, ask questions, and boost their curiosity. Your voice can be a catalyst, changing the trajectory of a young life.
Remember, you don't have to produce kids to make a difference; there are plenty who could use your guidance and support.
I've been pondering this a lot lately—the different paths we all walk, shaped by our sex, economic status, and cultural backgrounds. It's a mixed bag out there. Women, the poor, various ethnic groups—no one should be facing undue hardships. I'm all for empathy, but getting upset because someone has more doesn't solve anything. Pity is rather not the answer either. Instead of pitying yourself, consider sharing what you have. I've adopted a stoic approach, checking my privilege. Imagine kids who've never been to a zoo or lack books at home. Some endure silent struggles in dysfunctional families. I see it in my multicultural Berlin neighborhood, where girls juggle school and caregiving, leaving no time for play or extra study. I share what I’ve got, and be a mentor for someone who comes to me on their own.
So, before you get lost in another post about global issues, consider what you can do in your community. It's like the broken window theory, but in reverse—making a positive impact can spread like the spores of a fungus right in your backyard!
As a woman, my endocrinological system may influence my perception, possibly I may be on a spectrum of neurodivergence, I am hypersensitive and have a synesthetic tendency. Thinking for me feels like navigating a complex tree of thoughts, a challenge to translate into a left hemisphere-dominated culture.
Complex thinking, not black and white, is crucial, a skill that should be embraced in schools.
Eradicating double standards is about universal values and personal preferences, emphasizing the need for communication and negotiation in relational situations. We must investigate and understand female sexuality, shaped by centuries of cultural influence. Women, financially independent, prioritize partnership based on relational skills, not dominance.
Equality and negotiation should define relationships, requiring skills developed through a revolutionary education reform—holistic, promoting individual and critical thinking.
Political education is essential, empowering people to influence their surroundings and boosting their agency. Lastly, schools need more convivial activities, promoting body connection and right-hemisphere skills.